20 Harsh Lessons Every 20-Something Should Learn Sooner Than Later

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You have nothing to lose, even though you think you have everything to lose.

Try it all. Fall. And then keep the good stuff.

Your time is actually really valuable.

What do you value one of your hours? If someone offers you work for less than that number, decline. If it will cost you less to hire someone else to do what needs to get done than what it would cost you at your valued rate, hire them.

Value your time.

Nobody cares.

Especially when it comes to work and business, nobody cares. Well, that’s not true — if you work with good people, they care. But they also don’t. They expect you will keep to your word and get done what needs to get done, or pass it off to someone else who can finish the job.

You suck at communicating.

Fires, lack of communication. Misunderstandings, lack of communication. If you feel like you are over-communicating, you probably are — and that’s a good thing.

95% of friends are only your friends in certain surroundings.

Your workout friends are your workout friends.

Your music friends are your music friends, etc.

If you find someone who you are friends with regardless of what you do together, that’s a real friend. Prioritize them.

Your “successful” peers aren’t that successful.

That gold watch you see them wearing, you can buy at Macy’s for like $40.

All their new outfits are passed down from older friends. Their vacations to Hawaii, their dad hooked it up. In general, this is usually how it goes. Don’t worry, they’re all just as lost as you are.

Nobody has any idea what they want to do in life.

Sit down with that person for a one on one dinner, and they’ll probably reveal to you their long list of fears and anxieties.

Don’t worry. It’s a 20-something thing.

Hangovers aren’t acceptable excuses anymore.

Texting “u” instead of “you”.

You sound like a 13 year old on AIM for the first time. Stop.

The day starts after your 9–5.

Really boring. Get a hobby.

Vulnerability is sexy.

Be vulnerable. Express who you are.

It’s the fastest way to attract the people you truly want to be around (and weed out the ones you don’t).

Most promises don’t pan out.

Don’t count on it.

Learn to stand on your own two feet and make moves on your own.

Nothing happens unless you make it happen.

Nah. Doesn’t work that way.

You either wake up every day banging down that door until it opens, or it stays shut forever. Up to you.

Reputation is everything.

A lot of things seem like good ideas in the moment. If you get the sense it’s a poor choice in the long run, it probably is.

Pass on it. Not worth it.

Humility > confidence.

Humility brings people back again and again.

Reading is actually really important.

But if the last book you read was The Sun Also Rises your senior year of high school, then you need to hit up a bookstore.

You aren’t old. You’re really, really young.

You’re still a child. You just got out of the starting zone. Life JUST began for you.

Go do stuff.

Life is a mirror. Smile.

You get back what you offer the world.

It’s all about who you know.

There are no mistakes. Only lessons.

Thanks for reading! :)

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Nicolas Cole

100M+ Views | 5x Author | Co-founder of Ship 30 for 30 | Want to start writing online? Get the Ultimate Guide: https://startwritingonline.com