20 Harsh Lessons Every 20-Something Should Learn Sooner Than Later

You have nothing to lose, even though you think you have everything to lose.

Your 20s are experimental years. Building years. Risk years.

Your time is actually really valuable.

Set a number for yourself.

Nobody cares.

Got mono? Broke a leg? Fell on your face? Bleeding everywhere?

You suck at communicating.

Most fights stem from a lack of communication.

95% of friends are only your friends in certain surroundings.

Your bar friends are your bar friends.

Your “successful” peers aren’t that successful.

I know it seems like everyone graduated college and is making six figures and vacationing in Paris, but they’re not.

Nobody has any idea what they want to do in life.

Building on #6, everyone seems super together. Everyone seems to have a plan. Everyone seems to know exactly where they’re going.

Hangovers aren’t acceptable excuses anymore.

It actually makes you look like a child. Get your shit together.

Texting “u” instead of “you”.

…Or using the wrong your/you’re.

The day starts after your 9–5.

If you leave your cubicle and go home and do nothing but watch Netflix, and you’re still in your 20s, imagine what your life is going to be like in your 50s.

Vulnerability is sexy.

I know in middle school and high school and even college vulnerability was like, totally not cool bro, but it’s actually the secret to life.

Most promises don’t pan out.

Anytime someone promises you anything, just chalk it up to extra credit if it happens.

Nothing happens unless you make it happen.

There is no, “Hey, one day, I’m going to catch my break. Something is just going to happen.”

Reputation is everything.

Play the long game.

Humility > confidence.

Confidence gets you noticed.

Reading is actually really important.

I get it, we all learn in different ways.

You aren’t old. You’re really, really young.

Graduating college doesn’t make you “grown up.” It doesn’t make you “really old.”

Life is a mirror. Smile.

If you wake up every day angry, or depressed, or sad, and keep waiting for life to fix it for you, it’s never going to happen.

It’s all about who you know.

It really is. Make the effort to expand your network, meet new people, and most of all, keep your word.

There are no mistakes. Only lessons.

And finally, trust the path. I know life seems harsh. That’s kind of the point.

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